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The power of intuition.

A real life story about following your heart and listening to your intuition. Hello beautiful people, I hope this note finds you well and in good spirits.  Whenever I send out my letters into the ether, I often wonder what might you be doing when you receive it. Are you home? On the train? Maybe on a long car ride with the family looking to burn some time. Whatever you are doing, I hope you are enjoying this very moment, because too often our minds live in the past, other times they live in the future, leaving much too little time for right now, which in reality is all we ever really have.  If you have a spare moment, shoot me a note to let me know where you were when you read this, I’d love to know!  Back to business, I want to share some friendly advice I received from a sweet friend. Her name is Shannon Murphy and she recently made a series of decisions that will alter her life forever. I like that. I admire people that make bold moves to experience life to the fullest. These decisions require thinking outside of the box, making unpopular choices and telling your loved ones “trust me, all will be well.”  In this story Shannon shares her thoughts on intuition, material possessions and following her heart. Without further ado, I present to you, wise words from a friend.  Trust your gut. Follow your heart. Listen to your intuition. We have all undoubtedly heard this counsel from our friends and family countless times and have repeated the same with a similar frequency. During times of internal struggle these can feel like platitudes. But trite as these old adages may sound, they are in deed truisms…

Is jealousy helping or hurting you?

What is jealousy? Dictionary.com provides the following definition: 1) jealousy is a feeling of resentment against a rival, a person enjoying success or advantage, etc., or against another’s success or advantage itself. 2) mental uneasiness from suspicion or fear of rivalry, unfaithfulness, etc., as in love or aims. 3) vigilance in maintaining or guarding something. Based on above definitions, do you think jealousy is hurting or helping you? Here is my raw and unfiltered truth: I used to be a jealous person. I didn’t understand where it was coming from and if ever confronted I would wholeheartedly deny it. I didn’t see just how much pain my jealousy was causing not only me but my relationships as well. Too often I jumped into conclusions, made up false narratives in my mind and accused my boyfriends of ridiculous wrongdoings. This went on for years. My true liberation began after I set out on a soul-searching journey. This entailed taking a close and honest look at my upbringing while facing some painful and uncomfortable insecurities that lived deep within. Over time I discovered that my jealousy didn’t just appear out of thin air. My jealousy had two thick and deeply rooted causes. The first was the lack of my father’s involvement in my life and the second was a possessive and overbearing first romantic relationship. I won’t bore you with the dark and complicated corners of my psyche but I do want you to know that once I realized and accepted what was driving my jealousy, only then was I able to set myself free from the heavy and painful chains of this destructive habit. Today I see jealousy as a debilitating master that thrives on controlling thoughts and behaviors…

#9 Fight for your love

A conflict is a natural phenomenon that can result in a positive outcome if managed carefully and thoughtfully. Respect is key to successful communication…

#8 Be a couple but still be free

Just because you enter into a relationship, it does not mean you have to give up who you are as an individual…

#5 To change your relationship, change yourself

While we do not posses the power to change others, we can most definitely change ourselves. If you want your husband to be more romantic, try being more romantic yourself. If you want your girlfriend to show more affection, guess what…show more affection yourself. Give and your shall receive…