Too often we take things for granted. This is especially true for people in a long term relationship. At the start of a relationship we tend to notice, value and appreciate all the little things our partner does for us but with time, those things may become expected and overlooked. Take a moment to notice what your partner contributes to the relationship, to your household and to you. It could be a quick mention about a daily chore such as “thanks for taking out the trash on a cold rainy day my love, I appreciate it.” This simple gesture takes zero effort but can have enormous ripple effects. It could make someone’s day or even their week but it will definitely increase the positive vibrations in the room. Overtime these gentle gestures of appreciation will motivate your partner to do the same of you.
“Every day, tell your partner about at least one thing they did that you appreciate. Everybody is quick to let their partner know what they didn’t do right, and what made you angry. Make sure you balance this with what they do that please you. From the small things to the big things, the more you say ‘Thank you’, the more of what make you happy will come your way”
– Jane Greer, PH.D., couples therapist and author or Gridlock: Finding the Courage to Move On in Love, Work and Life
Give it a try today!